|1. Are all women in the Lifestyle bisexual?
|2. Are dating sites safe?
|3. Are there bi-sexual men in the Lifestyle?
| 4. Aren’t swingers all older retired people?
| 5. Can a single person be in the Lifestyle?
| 6. Could swinging make my spouse want to leave me?
| 7. Do dating sites work?
| 8. Doesn’t wanting sex with other people mean swingers
must be unhappy in their own relationships?
| 9. How can you possibly compare belonging to the
Lifestyle to belonging to a religion?
| 10. How many people are in the Swingers Lifestyle?
| 11. Is it Cheating to Swing?
| 12. Is it free to sign up?
| 13. Isn’t that all that swingers do when they’re
together?… Have sex?
| 14. What about diseases and STDs?
| 15. What if I have questions that are not in this list?
|16. What is a secret Lover?
|17. What is an Open Relationship?
|18. What is BDSM?
|19. What is BI Curious?
|20. What is Nudism?
|21. What is Polyamory?
|22. What is Sex Dating?
|23. What is Video Chat?
|24. What kind of Adult lifestyle is there on this site?
|25. What sort of email notifications will I receive after
I sign up?
|26. Why should I try online dating sites?
|27. Will my private information/profile be viewable by
|28. Will you give out my private information to marketing
|29. Won’t I get incredibly jealous seeing my partner have
sex with another person
1. Are all women in the Lifestyle bisexual?
all women in the Lifestyle are bisexual or bi-curious, but the
majority of them are. In fact, a woman’s bisexuality, or
bi-curiosity is one of the most common reasons that couples get
involved in the Lifestyle to begin with. A women in the lifestyle might
see this as an opportunity to see if she actually enjoys playing with
women and start off as bicurious, realise she does and start to
identify with bisexual. But all ladies into swinging are not all BI*.
women are naturally bi-curious when it comes to sex, a new report has
discovered. And what's more, it becomes more pronounced the older they
study carried out by Boise State University found that out of a group
of 484 heterosexual women, 60 per cent were sexually attracted to other
women; 45 per cent had kissed a woman and 50 per cent had fantasies
about the same sex.
2. Are dating sites safe?
online dating sites are safe to use as they protect your
details so they remain confidential. You can only contact other members
through their messaging systems so your personal contact details will
never be revealed unless you give them out yourself. You have control
over who you contact and talk to on the sites. Where online dating can
become less safe is when you actually meet someone in real life as
there is always a risk. When it comes to meeting someone you should use
common sense, always meet in a public place and make sure that a friend
or relative knows where you're going to be. All sites have full guides
to safely meeting your match off-line and they are worth reading and
remembering. Your profile is only open to members of www.miss-cutie.com
And members must log on to see member profiles!!
3. Are there bi-sexual men in the Lifestyle?
few. Most men in the Lifestyle are straight. Just as in our
mainstream culture, male bisexuality is still gaining acceptance in the
Lifestyle. Couples with actively bi-sexual males are usually
seeking the same and do not seek out couples with straight men.
Not saying there is none. There as in any group must be some and we to
welcome them, We just ask thay they respect other members!!
4. Aren’t swingers all older retired people?
truth is, that there are a HUGE number of younger people in the
was once a time in this country when someone could be fired from
a job because they were homosexual… So gays and lesbians were forced to
keep their sexuality a secret. There was also a time in this
country when it was against the law to have an inter-racial
relationship… So interracial couples had to keep their relationships
secret. Both homosexuality and interracial couples have since
gained acceptance among most of the World and no longer need to fear
people usually have much greater reasons to keep their
involvement in the Lifestyle a guarded secret. Younger swingers
are more likely to work for an employer who might fire them or make
life difficult if anyone at work ever found out. They may have
parents and family that would be disapproving of their personal
lives. They are also more likely to have younger children whose
lives would become very difficult and embarrassing if their schoolmates
or other parents found out.
reason that 99% of the swingers that you see appearing in
documentaries and talk shows are older, is because they no longer face
the same risks as younger swingers. The older swingers who speak
publicly about their lifestyle usually own there own businesses or are
retired by now, so they don’t fear losing their jobs. Their
parents may no longer be alive, so they don’t have to fear being
disowned by family. Their children are all grown up and out of
the house. They no longer have the same risks, so they don’t care
who finds out.
are hundreds of thousands of attractive younger people in the
Lifestyle, and since the invention of the internet, the number of new
people in the Lifestyle has exploded in the past ten years!
You just need to know where to look.
5. Can a single person be in the Lifestyle?
While most of the people in the Lifestyle are couples, there are a fair
number of swinging singles (“Swingles”),
But there is an ENOURMOUS difference between single females &
single males in the Lifestyle.
Single males in the Lifestyle… Hmm… Where do we begin? It
is very difficult to be a single male in the Lifestyle. While there are
a handful of very well respected and popular single males in the
Lifestyle, they face an uphill battle against a bad reputation,
overpopulation, and general lack of interest. Their bad
reputation exists because many single males who decide to join the
Lifestyle do so because they think it will be an easy way to have lots
of ‘no-strings attached’ sex. They either don’t understand or
don’t care about the social complexity and rules of the
Lifestyle. Most Lifestyle events and clubs don’t allow single
males, because those that do allow them end up packed with horny men
who think they are at a meat market… This usually ends up driving away
the couples and females. Often these "meat market males"
will join a Lifestyle website and immediately start sending unsolicited
emails to couples and single females with lewd propositions and/or
photos of their ‘goods’. To the best of our knowledge that
approach has NEVER worked for a single male. These types of males
usually get frustrated when they get no ‘action’ and eventually give up
on the Lifestyle… But just like a cockroach, they are usually replaced
by two more. It’s no wonder that respectable websites such as
www.miss-cutie.com have added features that allow couples and
females to block all incoming messages from single males. This may
sound harsh, but we are simply stating the facts about how these "bad
apples" can spoil many people's appetite for single males in the
Lifestyle... That being said, it really makes you appreciate the few
good apples. We will delete a person for Bad acts.
The rare single males who are successful in the Lifestyle are the ones
who are patient, respectful, polite, and never ever pushy or
assuming. They are usually very active members of online
Lifestyle communities, posting in forums and talking in the chat rooms
so that other members can get to know their personality. They
understand that most people are not interested in single males, and are
accepting of that. If a single male has gained the respect of the
Lifestyle community he will eventually be contacted by the couples or
single females who are interested in him. But it takes a lot of
patience, grace & respect... All of which cannot be faked.
We ourselves know several single males in the Lifestyle who we are
proud to call friends.
6. Could swinging make my spouse want to leave
won’t lie to you. There are some relationships which have
broken up while trying to enter the Lifestyle. But that is
usually because one half of the couple was pushed into it by their
spouse. That is not the Lifestyle’s fault. That’s the fault of an
unstable relationship with bad communication and lack of respect for
your partner. Swinging is a decision that BOTH partners have to agree
on totally and completely. You wouldn’t force your spouse to move
to a new city without discussing it with them first, right? Of
course not, they’d probably divorce you, and with good reason! You
obviously didn’t respect them and were only thinking about yourself.
who scapegoat the Lifestyle as the cause of their breakup are
people who don’t want to face their own more serious problems with
their relationship skills.
7. Do dating sites work?
|The simple answer is
Millions of people use dating sites nowadays as a way to meet new
people and maybe find their perfect match. You only have to look at the
success stories nearly all sites have on their websites to see that it
can and does work. However don't think that by sticking up a profile on
one you're guaranteed to meet someone, it still takes a little work to
make a good profile and contact people.
8. Doesn’t wanting sex with other people mean
swingers must be unhappy in their own relationships?
show that 78.5% of married couples in the lifestyle are very
happy while 64% of the general public are the same. As you can
see, couples in the Lifestyle are actually more likely to be very happy
in their relationships than the average couple. It’s easy to
understand why, since couples that swing typically have a much higher
level of trust, honesty and communication with their partner than the
average non-swinger couple. You don’t need Dr. Phil to tell you
that those are three things that are key in a healthy and happy
relationship. Plus, having a spouse who wants to help you fulfill
your sexual fantasies… How can you not be happy about that!?
9. How can you possibly compare belonging to
the Lifestyle to belonging to a religion?
Let’s say that you belong to the local (Insert Your
Religion Here) Church in your home town. One day a sudden tornado
carries you 1000 miles away to a strange town where you don’t know
anybody. If you go to the (Insert Your Religion Here) Church in
that town, you will immediately be surrounded by people who think just
like you, and believe in the same things you do. You suddenly
belong to a community in that town. You know you can count on
these people to help you if you needed it, and you would do the same
Lifestyle is exactly the same way. Since we joined the
lifestyle we’ve corresponded and made friends with people in the
Lifestyle from several states. Now no matter where we travel, we
always have friends to show us around town, take us to the local
events, or even give us a place to stay. They don’t do these nice
things because they expect sex in return. They do them because we are
one of them… And if there’s chemistry, sex is just a bonus.
Lifestyle is considered a religion by most members. A just like
most religions, the Lifestyle is a community of like-minded people, who
live a certain way of life and who look out for one another…
unlike most religions, sex is appreciated and respected.
10. How many people are in the Swingers
than you'd think!
recent ABC News report estimated that there are over 4 million
swingers in America. Since most swingers are usually pretty secretive
about their involvement in the Lifestyle, this estimation is probably
on the lower side. We've actually heard estimates go as high as 8
about that for a second... 4 million swingers in America... That is
about 1 out of 75 people! Do YOU know 75 people? That would make it
about One Million in the Philippines!!
11. Is it Cheating to Swing?
you do with someone else behind your partner’s back and
against their wishes is betrayal of trust. Swingers eliminate
lying, distrust and secrecy from their relationship. Everything
that a person does in the Lifestyle is done openly, honestly and with
the full consent and enthusiasm of their partner. Otherwise, even
the most experienced swinger would consider it cheating. Swingers
detest cheaters and do not condone cheating of any kind.
12. Is it free to sign up?
clube do charge, But we at www.miss-cutie.com have never charged a
member for anything. Membership is FREE. We are not here to take your
money. We will never charge you!!
13. Isn’t that all that swingers do when
they’re together?… Have sex?
ridiculous! While an open-minded and playful attitude
towards sex is something that all people in the Lifestyle have in
common, it doesn’t mean that sex is some sort of mandatory requirement
when swingers meet each other. Swingers aren’t rabbits! Just like in
the regular dating world, there has to be chemistry & mutual
attraction between people before anyone 'gets jiggy'.
of our very closest friends are people in the Lifestyle who we
have no sexual relationship with. But they’re wonderful and
open-minded people who we can truly be ourselves around. In that
way belonging to the Lifestyle is a lot like belonging to a religion.
14. What about diseases and STDs?
and STDs are something that everyone should be concerned
about, not just swingers. But the reality of the situation is
that people in the Lifestyle tend to be far more educated and much more
careful about STDs than the average person. They are also far
more likely to use sexual protection and get regularly tested than the
look at the amount of unplanned pregnancies and the transmission
of STD’s in the vanilla world, you can assume that they occur because
people don’t use protection… Why!? Why in this day and age would
anyone not use protection when having sex? Perhaps they were in
the heat of the moment and didn’t have time to put on protection…
Perhaps they didn’t have any protection, but they were afraid that if
they didn’t have sex now, they would never get the chance again…
Perhaps they were just plain stupid and didn’t know any better!
15. What if I have questions that are not in
can check out our Forum , Where you can find answers to questions.
And ask questions. Click on this Reply to see the Forum
16. What is a secret Lover?
people who are having intimate relations but keeping it out of the
eye of the public. Your secret lover is the person you are having
relations with but not letting your friends or your regular mate find
out about. A cheating Husband or Wife.
17. What is an Open Relationship?
open relationship is an interpersonal relationship in which the
parties want to be together but agree to a form of a non-monogamous
relationship. This means that they agree that a romantic or intimate
relationship with people hooking up with their partner is accepted,
permitted, or tolerated.
18. What is BDSM?
is a variety of often erotic practices or roleplaying involving
bondage, discipline, dominance and submission, sadomasochism, and other
interpersonal dynamics. Given the wide range of practices, some of
which may be engaged in by people who do not consider themselves as
practicing BDSM, inclusion in the BDSM community or subculture is
usually dependent on self-identification and shared experience.
19. What is BI Curious?
who has an intense intrest in bisexualality, and/or suspects
they may be bisexual, however does not classify themself as bisexual as
20. What is Nudism?
other terms ("social nudity", "public nudity", "skinny
dipping", "sunning", and "clothes-free") have been proposed as
alternative terms for naturism, but none has found the same widespread
public acceptance as the older terms "naturism" and (in much of the
United States) "nudism".
interested in social nudity can attend clothes-free beaches and
other types of ad-hoc nudist events. At these venues, participants
generally need not belong to a naturist club.
21. What is Polyamory?
is the nonpossessive, honest, responsible and ethical
philosophy and practice of loving multiple people simultanously.
Polyamory emphasizes consciously choosing how many partners one wishes
to be involved with rather than accepting social norms which dictate
loving only one person at a time.
22. What is Sex Dating?
Date can be many thing, But most of the time it means No Strings,
One Night Stand. It could be someone you meet at the mall or on the
internet and decide to get a room and have good time sex, just a one
time thing or it could be a regular meeting once a week or month. But
the purpuss is just good sex.
23. What is Video Chat?
chat is a one-on-one visual communication between two Internet
users. You can talk in a group or in a private chat. See people before
you meet in person
24. What kind of Adult lifestyle is there on
have many Adult lifestyles, The lifestyles are in the forn of Clubs.
Swingers, Sex Dating, Polyamory, Open Relationships, Nudism, Fetish,
Discreet lovers, BI Curious, BDSM. If you want us to add a Club, Let us
know so we can add it.
25. What sort of email notifications will I
receive after I sign up?
will be notified when a member sends you a message, We also send you e
mail when sinething new happens on the site. Lik a new feature.
26. Why should I try online dating sites?
|Online dating sites
provide a great way to meet people you may never meet in the normal
course of your life. It is extremely easy to get started and you can be
much more thorough in your search for a partner as you can search
through thousands of profiles to find the one you want. While you still
need to put effort in to get to know people it doesn't have the fear
factor of going up to someone in a bar or club. You can get to know
them quite well online before meeting and your first date will have a
head start as you'll already know plenty about each other.
27. Will my private information/profile be
viewable by the public?
only members can see your profile and they must log on to go to profile
28. Will you give out my private information
to marketing companies?
only advertist on Face Book and Twitter, And only with your
permission. When you register we ask if we can post you to Face Book or
Twitter or Both. If you don't give permission we never post you. Other
than that we don't use you in marketing, and only members will be able
to see you.
| 29. Won’t I get
incredibly jealous seeing my partner have sex with another person
very well might at first. Jealousy is anger and insecurity
caused by fear of losing something... In this case, your partner.
That’s why it’s important to take things slow, communicate and listen
to your partner. You and your partner need to remember that no matter
what happens, you love each other and you are going home
together. Besides, when you swing with other couples, it’s good
to remember that they are there for the same reason as you are,
fun. Lifestyle couples are committed to each other and have no
interest in stealing your mate or breaking up your relationship.